On Doing the Right Thing…
I will not let them kill my spirit. I will not! I’ve always considered myself to be a positive person and someone who not only avoids drama and mean spiritedness but tries to always see the good in others. Given situations, while cautious, I usually give people the benefit of the doubt. I have HOPE and faith that people are good (for the most part) and will do the right thing.
So, I’m saddened not only as a mother and teacher but as a human being because of the direction that society is taking. I won’t let today’s situation make me cynical but I do have the right to feel disappointed just the same….
Kelsea informed me this morning that she had not seen her LG VX9900 Envy cell phone since last night. While it’s not an iPhone, it certainly isn’t a cheapy no- nonsense phone either. We spent the day searching high and low, retracing her steps and tearing the house and car apart. She headed back to CVS, the last place that she had it last night at 8:30pm. Not finding it, I called Verizon to shut off the service this afternoon.
Then.. I began to think about it. “What if someone finds the phone? They won’t be able to get in touch with us or receive calls to return it.” So, I called Verizon and (assuming responsibility for any charges incurred) had it turned back on for the night “just in case.”
Repeated calls to the phone went unanswered but were ringing in the evening rather than going directly to voice mail so I knew someone had turned the phone on. I decided to send a text to her phone. Thus began a series of texts while I sat on the hill at Patriots Training Camp.
- Me: I need the phone back please.
- “how much are yu willing to pay for this phone back”
- Me: This phone will do you no good when I shut it off so please do the right thing and return it no questions asked.
- “ill smash it then it really doesnt matter to me maybe yu shuld watch where yu put things i found thiss shit”
- Me: You should just do the right thing. It is useless to you because it will be deactivated and reported as stolen.
- Me: you still could do the right thing. Your conscience, not mine.
- “do yu kno where seekonk middle school is”
- Me: i can find it
- “well how much you willin to pay first”
- Me: Sorry, deactivating now.
- “yur lost not mine.”
- Me: that’s what insurance is for.
- “ya i suppose. but you can get your phoone and evceryuthin wit it for 40 bills 10 less than vcerzion”
- “and she gets all her music ringtones contacts pics videos”
At which time I called and deactivated the phone. There is no way that I was going to be strong-armed by this person. Yes, the insurance cost is $50 for the replacement but I would pay double that rather than give that scum a dime. So, instead of doing the right thing, and likely getting some green from me for returning the “found” phone, they’ve got a beautiful piece of useless equipment on their hands that they either smashed in frustration or will try to pawn off on someone else. (I’m hoping that the battery dies very soon so access to her address book, pictures, videos, etc will be gone–unless they spring for a charger)
I’m sad about this, not because of the money but because I had faith… faith that there are still good people in the world. Faith that someone finding the phone would do exactly what I would do without even batting an eyelash. Faith that when it comes right down to it, kids can and will have empathy for others and that the rude, disrespectful behavior and attitudes that I see in school on a daily basis are more the exception rather than the rule.
Guess I was wrong in this case but I’m still not willing to give up on people and will continue to be the best person that I can be, hoping that it just may rub off on others. Either way, I can sleep soundly at night, knowing that I’ve raised my children and have taught my students to be Good People, to do what’s right and have empathy for others along the way. How about you?
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August 9th, 2007 at 12:30 am
Sadly, there will always be people like this who feel the misfortune of others entitles them to a financial windfall. Good for you to stand by your principles and not give in to what amounted to little more than a thinly-veiled attempt at extortion.
The only way we will outnumber these people is by continuing to teach our children to have empathy and be aware of things beyond their immediate sphere. This goes beyond returning someone’s lost property — it goes to teaching them about charity and community and reminding them there will always be someone in need of a helping hand.
I continue this same journey myself every day — I wish you the best of luck with yours.
August 9th, 2007 at 6:51 am
I have mixed feelings about this. Personally, I think I would have handled it differently - agreed to the meetup, then either brought the SMS messages to the police and had a plainclothes officer present, or if they didn’t have the manpower to spare, had a couple of close friends be at or near the location a half hour early as an advance team, shown up, asked for the phone back, and if the person refused, brought out the team and repeated - nicely - the request to have the phone back. But that’s me.
August 9th, 2007 at 7:10 am
Had I not been alone, I may have handled it differently, however, at the time I wasn’t going to meet them by myself. I know that they could have rung up quite the set of charges in the mean time and felt that I needed to act quickly since my husband was not available for 36 hours. Also, I just wanted this “done” and over without it possibly turning ugly.
Still, it doesn’t change the point of what really bothers me…it’s not about “the stuff” it’s about people’s lack of regard for others and where we are all heading.
August 9th, 2007 at 7:19 am
The day will come when all phones will contain GPS - you’ll be able to connect to an online service and find your phone. Too bad that isn’t reality today, as it would have been great to show up where that person was with the cops, or your own posse, and take your phone back.
Until that day comes around, and those services are available, unfortunately, people like that will continue to exist.
Sorry for your troubles.
August 9th, 2007 at 7:48 am
I understand the Ninja’s response, but as a woman, I certainly would not have shown up alone with those punks or gone to meet them for any amount of money- certainly never identifying myself to them- god only knows what could have happened.
There are many great people_ I once left my purse in a restaurant, and before I got home, they had already called me to come get it. Good things do happen- please don’t loose faith totally, and I am sorry you had the experience of the “underbelly”.
August 9th, 2007 at 8:40 am
how pathetic and lame for that person. i think you handled it with creativity & moxie. sorry you had to have this brush with them, and this reminder about the small-minded among us. but yes, whitney’s right, there are gems out there too…
August 9th, 2007 at 9:32 am
Thanks girls.. yes, I know that there are definitely good people out there which is exactly why I’m not going to let this deter me. Just think about how in this very community of new media folks, people step up to the plate to help one another out in times of need.
What worries me is not particularly “our” generation, rather what’s coming down the pike where kids feel a sense of entitlement and are so self centered that they fail to recognize and empathize with others. Let’s face it, as adults and especially as parents we are often called to put the needs of others before our wants. Will the next generation of adults/parents be able to do that?
August 9th, 2007 at 9:42 am
I’m sorry to hear what happened. I work in a grocery store and have for 18 years. I have seen the the decline in manners of not just young people but adults too. The rudness and disrespect that is dislpayed everyday amazes me. I hope I am teaching my ten year old better values than that. I can’t help but wonder what the next generation is going to teach their children. This world is turning into a truly scary place. Keep good thoughts Mrs.B. Your friends and fans will keep you in theirs I’m sure.